21 THINGS I’VE LEARNED AT 21

Hi guys! I thought this post would be appropriate since I recently turned 21 & that’s kind of a milestone birthday. This next decade is going to be crazy & I look forward to all that it holds. 🙂 Here are some things that I learned in my 21 years of life!

1.) I am super forgiving. 

I have the biggest heart & anyone who knows me will agree. It’s hard for me to stay mad at people & I give too many chances to people who may not deserve it. But I’m always just trying to be the nicest person.

2.) Go outside. 

Even if it’s just for a second, I promise it will give you a fresh mindset. Whenever I am feeling upset or too stuck on my own life & problems, I go outside. I watch other people living their life & hear everything going on & it just calms me down & helps me realize that my problems are actually not so bad. You are not alone.

3.) Most everyone deserves a second chance.

I’m a firm believer in second chances. I think everyone needs a do-over once in awhile.

4.) Sleep on it.

A good night’s sleep fixes pretty much everything. Things don’t seem so bad the next morning. Whenever I am upset, I usually wake up the next morning with a different perspective & a better mindset about the situation. 

5.) Don’t get others involved in your relationship.

I learned this the hard way & unfortunately I don’t think I’m alone. A relationship is between two people & the more people you talk to about your problems, the more people become involved, whether you want them to be or not. Keep things between you & your partner & if you really need someone to talk to or vent to, go to your mom or someone with an unbiased opinion.

6.) Don’t let numbers define you.

You are not defined by numbers. Your weight, your income, your GPA. 

7.) Always say “I love you.”

Last year started off tough with my grandpa passing away suddenly & unexpectedly. We were pretty close so it was hard for me to realize I would never see him again or spend another holiday with him. It was also hard to see how sad my mom was. No one wants to see their mom cry! But all of that is to say, always, always, love because you never know when someone’s last day is. I am fortunate to have just talked to my grandpa & we had a good relationship, but it was just a reminder that sometimes the worst thing happens & you don’t want to have to live with resentment or anger along with grief. 

8.) Have a “what is this teaching me?” attitude.

Life is hard. But switching your mindset from “why is this happening to me?” to “what is this trying to teach me?” is going to help you get through some tough times with a better attitude.

9.) Do not compare.

I don’t really have much advice for this except just avoid what makes you feel bad about yourself & your life. Whether it be someone on Instagram you need to unfollow or a toxic friend that just causes envy that you need to ditch, just do it. Every little thing helps. 

10.) You can’t & won’t please everyone.

This is even harder for me than the comparison one. I am such a people pleaser & I want to fix everything. But I’ve had to learn that I can’t fix every relationship or problem & it’s also not my job. Let it go. Some people just won’t accept you & that’s okay. “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, & there’s still going to be someone who hates peaches.”

11.) Cheese is expensive.

Reason #1 why I went vegan.

12.) You can’t avoid conflict and confrontation so learn how to handle it with class and confidence.

13.) Pray. 

A relationship with God is the most important relationship you can have. Focus on Him & His plan for your life & everything will start to fall in place. Maybe not right away, but trust the timing of your life.

14.) Letting go is hard, but holding on is harder. 

That possessive relationship, that draining job, that unfulfilling major, that broken friendship… let it go. 

15.) It’s okay to be selfish sometimes. 

16.) Slow down. 

17.) Tell your parents ‘thank you.’ 

I am so lucky to have parents that have supported every passion I have ever had & done their best to make my dreams come true. They do so much for me & I am forever thankful. Don’t forget about the people that shaped you into the person you are today. 

18.) Drop expectations.

19.) Travel. 

I have been fortunate enough to explore most of my country & it is so amazing! Save up your money & travel… as far & wide as you can. Home will always be home, but you’ll be a different person because of your experiences. 

20.) Just go for it.

Don’t wait for a “sign” or anything like that. Just do the thing. The hard thing, the scary thing, the thing you’ve always wanted to do. Just go for it!! You will only regret the chances you didn’t take. 

21.) Find yourself.

I know this is soooo cliche, but it’s like that for a reason. These past couple of years I have learned so much about myself & figured out who & what really matters in life, I’ve found my passion & I’m finally living it so I feel like I have a purpose. And I’m not saying you have to go on some extravagant hike to “find yourself”. I’m just saying, spend time with yourself. Take a whole day to do what you love. Take a bunch of days to do what you love & just be alone to think. Most of my freshman year of college I spent alone because I didn’t have a solid group of friends, but after I stopped feeling sorry for myself is when things changed. I figured out who I was & what I wanted & I went after it. Now I know myself & what I need to be the “best me”. It’s going to take time, but it is so, so worth it. 

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