This is a blog post that is near and dear to my heart. It’s honestly a topic that I take really seriously because it’s something that affects me & pretty much everyone that I know. That thing is stress.
I wouldn’t consider myself high-strung. People usually describe me as calm & laid back. My stress doesn’t necessarily come from external factors, but from the internal pressure that I put on myself. I have perfectionist tendencies, which in turn makes me work extra hard to make sure I’m going the extra mile. In high school I was considered the over-achiever & I felt like I had to live up to that, & still do to this day. It kinda all goes back to my consistent need to please people. But that’s a whole other blog post… What I want to talk about today, is how I handle the stress that I get from the pressure that I put on myself to accomplish everything with perfection. Hahaha that was a confusing sentence but you get the idea!
Recognize that I’m stressed
The first thing I do is recognize & admit that I’m stressed. Because I’m a perfectionist, I want my life to look perfect, which means I might be crumbling under this self-made pressure, but I’m going to act fine as I continue to push myself. It’s hard for me to admit that I can’t juggle it all sometimes, & that maybe I just need to sit down & watch Netflix & not worry about anything. I feel the constant need to be productive, so taking a step back & realizing that I’m being overworked is the first step to de-stressing.
Figure out why
Next I try to figure out why I’m stressed. Is it classes? Am I worried I won’t get all A’s like I told myself I would? Is it relationships? Am I not (in my opinion) being a good friend, sister, daughter, SO, like I promised myself I would be? This is the reflection step & a really important one.
Take actionable steps
Once I realize where this stress is coming from, I can address that problem & break it down, giving me the actionable steps to solve it. (I’m also a fixer, so this fills my need to help, even if it is just myself). I will literally get a piece of paper and write down the steps I need to take to finish the school project, which will help me visualize that A. Or I’ll look at my calendar & decide what I can cancel so I can spend more time with my friends. Taking steps will help you feel in control & really start to actually manage the stress.
Remind myself that done is better than perfect
This is definitely the hardest step for me because I want everything to be perfect. But sometimes done is good enough & will just have to do!
I pretty much just treat myself! I go back to the things that make me happy, even if that’s as simple as buying a coffee & going to Target for an hour. Stepping away from the thing that is making me stressed & distracting myself is my favorite tactic for stress management. I just have to make sure to not deny my stress, that’s why I do this last, after I’ve already identified the “problem.”
I will also talk it out or journal. Writing has always been a great way for me to express myself & this is no different. I write about the stress & pressure that I’m feeling & it helps me figure it all out. This is the mental self care part & it’s just as important as the random trips to Target.
I hope this post gave you some tips for your own stress management! It’s not perfect, but it’s done 😉 & that’s what’s important!!
Also, yes I uploaded a photo of myself in a hotel bathrobe because it’s not a perfect photo, but it perfectly sums up me living my best life, stress free. *peace sign*