Social Media: It’s Not a Competition

This is a topic that’s been on my mind for awhile now. I know it’s a little different than what I normally talk about, but I think it’s important to share. So I hope you really understand it & form your own opinion as well. I’d love to know what you think & how you feel. That’s part of the reason I started blogging in the first place! To share my thoughts with others & surround myself with like-minded people. And maybe make an impact in someone’s life.

Before I get too far into this though, I just want to say, I love social media. I spend an embarrassing amount of time scrolling through Instagram & curating the perfect theme; going through the Explore page & drooling at the vacation pics & wondering how on earth someone can be so perfect & afford that bikini. (But for real college students, please tell me your secret to not being broke.) I also may or may not plan my activities based on how Insta-worthy they will be. And I love looking at photo albums on Facebook & retweeting relatable stuff. So yes, I love social media & I spend a lot of time scrolling, liking, & feeling less than perfect.

And that is the problem.

I feel like summer is the hardest time to be on social media. Because everyone is showing off their trips, concerts, cuddle seshes with their SO’s, their hot bods, their cool cars, their sweet internships… the list goes on. And it’s all understandable. I am guilty myself.

But it becomes too much. Those perfect couple in Cabo vacation pics; study abroad snapchats; I start to compare myself to others & it becomes a downward spiral of “My life isn’t good enough.” 

My life is plenty good enough though. I have a family who wants to spend time with me, a good paying job, a car that gets me where I need to go, a supportive boyfriend who also happens to be my best friend, too many clothes & too much stuff… but somehow it never seems like enough when I go on Instagram & see my friends in Europe with their sports car, $180 bikini & designer carry-on.

But then I remember, it’s not a competition.

Everyone is on their own journey & social media only shows the good side of life. Instagram doesn’t capture the fights, the money struggles, the hours spent working, just to afford that plane ticket. Twitter doesn’t show the tears that are behind those depressing tweets that everyone takes too lightly. Facebook doesn’t show the moments that tear a family apart.

So next time you (or I) feel less than enough because of a silly picture on Instagram, remember that it’s not a competition. It’s okay to not have thousands of followers & only get 3 retweets. It’s not about likes, comments or follows. Social media should be about sharing what makes you happy, & encouraging others to do the same.

So go congratulate your classmate on that new job & tell your best friend just how good they look in their new outfit. Tweet your favorite bible verse because it means a lot to you even though it won’t get hundreds of likes. Take lots of selfies with your dog & don’t be afraid to post them, because remember, it’s not a competition. 



Top 5 Favorite Netflix Shows

I admit it: I watch more Netflix than, well, most things. I just get hooked on a show & before I realize, it’s dark out &, oops, time to sleep & watch more Netflix. I’m currently watching How I Met Your Mother & Barney is definitely me in another life. So for those of you who also wish to procrastinate, here are my Top 5 Favorite Netflix shows of all time. 

1.) New Girl

This is one of the first shows I ever watched when I discovered the world of Netflix & it remains a favorite. I relate to Jess so much because I am a very awkward person & I also cry & eat ice cream when any minor inconvenience occurs. 10/10 would recommend.

2.) The Office

OMG I can’t get enough of Pam & Jim. Or Dwight. Or Angela. Or Micheal for that matter. It’s one of those shows I go back to when I can’t think of anything else to watch. If you love to laugh, this one’s for you.

3.) Gossip Girl

I want to be Blair Waldorf so bad. She is so fabulous. For those of us that can’t actually afford to live in Manhattan’s Upper East Side with handsome men & preppy clothes, this is the best it gets. XOXO, Gossip Girl

4.) Shameless

This show has everything you could ever want: comedy, drama & romance. If you’ve ever grown up in a big family, you get the Gallaghers…

5.) How I Met Your Mother

I just want a relationship like Lily & Marshall. But I want to live a life like Robin. But instead I’m lying in bed watching Netflix & thinking up this blog post.

Let me know what shows you love on Netflix in the comments or on social media. I’m always looking for new reasons to take a break from adulting!