Moving Tips + Hacks

Hi guys! Happy Monday! 

In today’s post I’m going to be bringing you some moving tips… or hacks… or whatever you want to call it! I’m currently in the process of moving so it’s very relevant, & I know that summer is a common time to move, especially for college students! I have moved every year for the past 3 years, so I know what I’m doing (or sorta). I get really stressed with moving so I hope these tips can help some of you be less stressed!! 

1.) Pack decorations first

Start small so you feel like you are making progress! You also don’t need decorations to live, so you won’t be scrambling to find your toothbrush or pots & pans while you’re in the process of moving. 

2.) Clean & declutter 

Moving is a great time to dust those shelves you’ve neglected, wash your comforter, get rid of clothes, throw away old papers… basically a great time to practice minimalism! I am pretty good about being clean & getting rid of stuff throughout the year, but I definitely get lazy & stuff piles up. Also, donate your clothes to a place like Plato’s Closet or Buffalo Exchange! You can sell your clothes for cash, & who doesn’t want that?! 

3.) Use Rubbermaids 

Not only is this more environmentally friendly, but then you can use them for storage once you move! I started doing this freshman year & have never bought a box since. 

4.) Label, label, label

So it’s definitely my OCD coming out, but I find it extremely helpful to label boxes where I want them to go in the new place, i.e. kitchen, bedroom, bathroom, living room… this way whoever is helping you move also knows where to put things so they don’t just pile up by the doorway. 

5.) Wrap clothes in grocery bags

I used to fold up all my clothes & put them in a bin BUT that took up sooo much space. The past few times I’ve moved, I’ve used a garbage bag to keep my clothes clean while moving, but also so I wouldn’t have to take them all off their hangers & then put them back on. It saves so much time! If you are moving to a smaller space & need more closet space, invest in a rolling clothes rack that you can use to move clothes & then store them once you move! 

6.) Utilize storage you already have

I know baskets are having a moment, so you probably have a few laying around. Put shoes or other little knick-knacks in them for moving! Also, use your suitcase!! I like to put all my purses or leftover hangers in it because it rolls so perfectly & doesn’t take up a ton of space. 

I hope this was somewhat helpful! I am surprisingly calm considering I move in a day & still have a lot to pack 🙂 buttt I’m trying to remain calm & remind myself that everything will come together because it always does 🙂 

P.S. The photo is a sneak peek of my new place!!! 

Love, Loss, & Growth

I considered not writing this post, because it’s still hard to think about & talk about & I feel so vulnerable. BUT I’m coming upon a year (on Friday to be exact) of the biggest heartbreak I have experienced, & I thought it was time that I share more about the relationship & how I deal/dealt with the loss of someone so important to me, in hopes that someone else can resonate & feel maybe just a little bit better 🙂 

I never really talked too much about my relationship here because I didn’t (& don’t) want a relationship or another person to become my identity. I think too often some people are so involved with their significant other on the Internet that it becomes all people associate them with. I’m not putting them down because there are so many cute, healthy relationships that make me go #goals & believe in love again haha. But I don’t want that. At least not right now. Because I’m 21 & if there is one thing I’ve learned at this stage in life, it’s that people change & leave you & it hurts like heck & I don’t want to be reminded of them on every corner of the Internet. 

I met him in middle school. Funny thing, my dad actually coached him in basketball & I remember thinking he was sooo cute. Little did I know that years later he would become my best friend, boyfriend, first love, & then a complete stranger. 

Fast forward to high school just a couple of years later & we ended up being in the same friend group. He was crushin’ on me hard, but I was so excited that there were boys actually paying attention to me that I didn’t pay much attention to him. But we hung out together with our friend group & started texting & flirting. He became one of my closest friends & was always there for me through a few relationships & all the boy drama I put myself through. He asked me out a few times before I said yes… the rest is pretty much history. 

We share the exact same birthday. He is literally only about 3 hours older than me, & through some digging we found out we were actually born in the same hospital!! Pretty crazy. I don’t think it was coincidence though. We were pretty much meant to be from the start.

Our relationship wasn’t easy. In high school, we didn’t get to see each other a lot, which put a strain on the relationship. Family relationships & typical high school drama didn’t help either. Then we both went to separate colleges about 2 & 1/2 hours away. Long distance FaceTime calls & infrequent weekend visits consumed our relationship & lives.

But despite the bad, there was so, so much good. He taught me so much. Not only how to drive stick shift (or at least he tried to lol), but that people’s opinions don’t matter that much. Friend & family relationships always come first. It is possible to build an ice cream cone bigger than your head. He taught me how to snowboard, the first & only time I’ve been haha. He showed me that romance isn’t dead, & there’s nothing a large pizza & an episode of “The Office” can’t fix. 

Eventually, we started to drift apart. I broke up with him on July 12, 2018. And it was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. Not only because I still loved him so deeply, but because I hurt the one person who I never thought I would hurt. 

I didn’t know what to do. I had to get used to a new normal without my person. I felt guilty about being sad about a relationship that I ended. I felt misunderstood & lost. 

No one tells you how to fix a heartbreak. It will be scary. It will be hard. It will hurt. You’ll be confused. Mad. But my oh my, will you GROW. You’ll have more time for yourself & the things that make you happy. You’ll build stronger relationships with the people you do have in your life. You’ll grow in your faith & begin to understand the real meaning behind, everything happens for a reason. You also might scream the lyrics of “Truth Hurts” by Lizzo & cry yourself to sleep, but again, no one tells you how to fix a heartbreak.

It’s hard to summarize a 3 & 1/2 year long relationship. There were lots of downs, so many ups, mistakes, & many lessons learned together. But because of it, I am better, stronger, more confident, loving, romantic, understanding & compassionate. I can confidently say that although the relationship didn’t have the fairy tale ending I always dreamed about, I would never change a thing. And I hope he can say the same. 

Planner Organization

Hi guys!

It’s that time of year again… PLANNER SHOPPING!! June is seriously my favorite month just because I have to go planner shopping & I absolutely loveeee it. I look forward to it all year & it’s pretty much the only reason I somewhat enjoy going back to school haha. I just love being organized & feeling (key word) like my life is together & a cute planner really helps me with that. I was that girl in high school that actually used the lame planner they gave every student at the beginning of the year! Now I go to Target & stand in the planner section for half an hour & just dream.

I wanted to briefly tell you guys how I organize my planner so you guys can get organized for the new school year or just get your life together too! I love watching YouTube videos about going back to school or looking up planner organization ideas on Pinterest. I’m not kidding when I say I’m obsessed guys!! I want to be a resource for all of you who might also love the feeling of getting your life together, but you’re also a perfectionist that wants every detail of every day mapped out just right. 

So I love Day Designer planners. This is not sponsored, although I soo wish it was hahah. I have been using their planners since I got to college & they specifically have academic planners which is perfect for me because I mainly use my planner to keep track of stuff for class. I like the planners that have a month view, week view, and day-to-day view. This way I can see what my month looks like at a glance, my week, etc. 

I begin with the month overview. I write down any dates that I know are for sure in pen & then sketch in possible dates with pencil. I always make sure to put the time of stuff as well ‘cuz ya girl WILL forget lol. The planner I use also has a “notes” section on the month overview, & that’s where I plan out my blog content for the month, & make a larger “To-Do” list of things I want to accomplish that month. It helps me see the big picture. 

Next, I go week by week. I’ll write in any dates or deadlines for the week, establish my top three “To-Dos” for the week, & map out what I will accomplish each day. Again, this way I can see the whole week at a glance & prepare for each day accordingly. 

Sometimes I color code my planner, but this time I’m using the stickers that came with the planner to indicate different things. Color coding is really helpful to break down tasks, but the stickers are also fun & a great way to keep track of what’s going on daily. 

I think I will do another whole post about how I work, because I plan my weeks out based on  my energy levels throughout the week. I went to this really cool blogging event & someone was talking about how they work with the seasons & all this stuff about astrology too, & it sounded kinda crazy, but honestly they are onto something!! I have already noticed when my energy levels are high & when I feel most productive & motivated, so I generally plan my busy days & harder tasks on those days. But more on that later!

Also, I was going to link my exact planner, but I can’t find it online! I got it at Target in case you were wondering though 🙂

February Favorites

Hi guys! 

I wanted to share some products & things I’ve been loving recently! I don’t know if I will make this a monthly thing, like monthly favorites, or a seasonal thing… we’ll see! But I have a lot that I want to share so I will definitely break it up into a few posts.

So the thing that actually made me want to write this post is my jade roller. Guys. It is worth the hype. My skin has actually been more clear than usual. Not only that, but it feels amazing. I do it every night as the last step of my skincare routine & it relaxes me so much. I was skeptical about how rolling something on my face would be beneficial in any way, but I think it has helped my breakouts, while also tightening my skin & just feeling goooooddd. I also didn’t want to spend a ton of money to get a “real” jade roller, but I got mine off of Amazon for less than $20. 

Okay second thing is a teddy bear coat. They are all over this season as a chic & comfy way to stay warm. I got mine from Nordstrom Rack, but they are pretty much everywhere. I get so many compliments when I wear mine & it is seriously sooo cozy. 

One thing I wanted to work on this year was mediation. For me, I was always intimidated by the idea of sitting still for even five minutes & thinking about nothing. My brain is always moving 50000 miles per hour, being one step ahead. Taking time to sit & do nothing sounded like anxiety waiting to happen. But one of my coworkers actually told me about this app called Simple Habit, that has guided meditations. I think I mentioned it in one of my “12 Things” posts. It is seriously a great tool to get into meditation. I do it every morning & I feel like I actually accomplished something before even getting out of bed. If you’ve been wanting to try mediation, but are also a little skeptical, I totally recommend this app!

Along the lines of self improvement, I recently read the book “You Are a Badass”. I’ve been wanting to read it for awhile now & it was so worth it! One of those books where I wanted to memorize every line because it held so much truth. I was just like PREACH GIRL the whole time I was reading it. 

Another beauty product that I just love is the St. Torpez Bronzing Mousse. There is nothing like a natural tan, which I plan on getting once it warms up, but this tanning mousse works wonders in the cold months! I’m 10x more confident when I have a tan & this product has helped me achieve that summer glow that I’m missing right about now…. It’s a little pricey, but I only apply it once a week & it lasts for a few months so I’d say it’s a good investment 🙂 

21 THINGS I’VE LEARNED AT 21

Hi guys! I thought this post would be appropriate since I recently turned 21 & that’s kind of a milestone birthday. This next decade is going to be crazy & I look forward to all that it holds. 🙂 Here are some things that I learned in my 21 years of life!

1.) I am super forgiving. 

I have the biggest heart & anyone who knows me will agree. It’s hard for me to stay mad at people & I give too many chances to people who may not deserve it. But I’m always just trying to be the nicest person.

2.) Go outside. 

Even if it’s just for a second, I promise it will give you a fresh mindset. Whenever I am feeling upset or too stuck on my own life & problems, I go outside. I watch other people living their life & hear everything going on & it just calms me down & helps me realize that my problems are actually not so bad. You are not alone.

3.) Most everyone deserves a second chance.

I’m a firm believer in second chances. I think everyone needs a do-over once in awhile.

4.) Sleep on it.

A good night’s sleep fixes pretty much everything. Things don’t seem so bad the next morning. Whenever I am upset, I usually wake up the next morning with a different perspective & a better mindset about the situation. 

5.) Don’t get others involved in your relationship.

I learned this the hard way & unfortunately I don’t think I’m alone. A relationship is between two people & the more people you talk to about your problems, the more people become involved, whether you want them to be or not. Keep things between you & your partner & if you really need someone to talk to or vent to, go to your mom or someone with an unbiased opinion.

6.) Don’t let numbers define you.

You are not defined by numbers. Your weight, your income, your GPA. 

7.) Always say “I love you.”

Last year started off tough with my grandpa passing away suddenly & unexpectedly. We were pretty close so it was hard for me to realize I would never see him again or spend another holiday with him. It was also hard to see how sad my mom was. No one wants to see their mom cry! But all of that is to say, always, always, love because you never know when someone’s last day is. I am fortunate to have just talked to my grandpa & we had a good relationship, but it was just a reminder that sometimes the worst thing happens & you don’t want to have to live with resentment or anger along with grief. 

8.) Have a “what is this teaching me?” attitude.

Life is hard. But switching your mindset from “why is this happening to me?” to “what is this trying to teach me?” is going to help you get through some tough times with a better attitude.

9.) Do not compare.

I don’t really have much advice for this except just avoid what makes you feel bad about yourself & your life. Whether it be someone on Instagram you need to unfollow or a toxic friend that just causes envy that you need to ditch, just do it. Every little thing helps. 

10.) You can’t & won’t please everyone.

This is even harder for me than the comparison one. I am such a people pleaser & I want to fix everything. But I’ve had to learn that I can’t fix every relationship or problem & it’s also not my job. Let it go. Some people just won’t accept you & that’s okay. “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, & there’s still going to be someone who hates peaches.”

11.) Cheese is expensive.

Reason #1 why I went vegan.

12.) You can’t avoid conflict and confrontation so learn how to handle it with class and confidence.

13.) Pray. 

A relationship with God is the most important relationship you can have. Focus on Him & His plan for your life & everything will start to fall in place. Maybe not right away, but trust the timing of your life.

14.) Letting go is hard, but holding on is harder. 

That possessive relationship, that draining job, that unfulfilling major, that broken friendship… let it go. 

15.) It’s okay to be selfish sometimes. 

16.) Slow down. 

17.) Tell your parents ‘thank you.’ 

I am so lucky to have parents that have supported every passion I have ever had & done their best to make my dreams come true. They do so much for me & I am forever thankful. Don’t forget about the people that shaped you into the person you are today. 

18.) Drop expectations.

19.) Travel. 

I have been fortunate enough to explore most of my country & it is so amazing! Save up your money & travel… as far & wide as you can. Home will always be home, but you’ll be a different person because of your experiences. 

20.) Just go for it.

Don’t wait for a “sign” or anything like that. Just do the thing. The hard thing, the scary thing, the thing you’ve always wanted to do. Just go for it!! You will only regret the chances you didn’t take. 

21.) Find yourself.

I know this is soooo cliche, but it’s like that for a reason. These past couple of years I have learned so much about myself & figured out who & what really matters in life, I’ve found my passion & I’m finally living it so I feel like I have a purpose. And I’m not saying you have to go on some extravagant hike to “find yourself”. I’m just saying, spend time with yourself. Take a whole day to do what you love. Take a bunch of days to do what you love & just be alone to think. Most of my freshman year of college I spent alone because I didn’t have a solid group of friends, but after I stopped feeling sorry for myself is when things changed. I figured out who I was & what I wanted & I went after it. Now I know myself & what I need to be the “best me”. It’s going to take time, but it is so, so worth it. 

Sustainable Living

Hi guys! 

Today I decided to write about ways to be more sustainable in your everyday life! Recently I’ve made the commitment to use as many ethical, natural & sustainable products as I can. I feel better if I know that I’m doing my part to make this world a better place! I know before I decided to make this change I was intimidated. I wasn’t sure where to start & I wanted to be PERFECT. But then I remembered it’s about trying! So in no way am I perfect about buying & using only sustainable, natural & ethical products, but I definitely do my best! I’ll link all the items I use down below 🙂 

Kitchen 

E-Z Seal Extra Thick Reusable Storage Bags

Stainless Steel Metal Straws

Reusable Produce Bags

Ball 12ct 16oz Mason Jar

Kate Spade New York Gold Stripe Thermal Mug

Beauty 

Love Beauty & Planet Murumuru Butter & Rose Shampoo

Love Beauty & Planet Murumuru Butter & Rose Conditioner

Wowe Natural Organic Bamboo Toothbrush

Raw Sugar Body Wash

Other 

Mrs. Meyer’s Lavender Multi-Surface Everyday Cleaner

Fair Trade Shopping Bag

Photo: Katie Blankenship Photography, @katie.blankenship.photography

The Year of Just Realizing Stuff

Now that I’m ready to write again, I want to reflect on 2018.

2018 was hard for me. It started out rough & never really got better. Sure, there were some highs, but a lot of lows. I experienced a lot of heart break, sadness, loss, & change. 

In January, just days after my 20th birthday, my grandfather died. It made me realize that life is short & to never take anything for granted, especially the people in your life. Love, forgive & cherish the time you have with your friends & family.

A lot of drama & pettiness filled my life with some of the people closest to me. I drew away from people that cared about me in fear of being let down like I already had. I learned a lot about friendship. It made me realize that life is too short to worry about what other people think & let them dictate your thoughts & actions. And that REAL friends will be supportive & respectful, while also wanting the very best for you. Cut out the toxic people, people! 

Last year, my relationship struggled. Long distance finally got the best of us & our differences started to show. I fought so hard to keep the relationship alive, but felt like a failure whenever my attempts to save the relationship failed. I so badly wanted to “save” the relationship because we had been together for so long. We talked about our future together, made plans to move in together, have a family. I so desperately wanted it to work out because he was my best friend. I felt safe with him. He was home to me. He was my first love, my first everything & I didn’t want to give that up. I didn’t want to lose him, because I knew that meant losing everything else. 

But I realized that I can’t save people, I can’t change people. I can’t have what isn’t mine to keep.

In July, I made the decision to break up with my boyfriend of 3 & 1/2 years. It was the hardest thing I had ever had to do because I hate hurting people. The last thing I want to do is make people sad & upset. I’m such a people pleaser. (Leaving that in 2018). I felt like I was not only letting someone down, but letting down the one person I never thought I would hurt. My best friend & love.

Although it was hard, it made me realize that letting go is so much easier than holding on. 

What followed was a lot of sadness. I had to get used to a new normal. A new life without my person. I had never felt more alone. 

Seven months later & it’s still hard. But I’ve learned so much about myself & what I want & need. 

I grew up a LOT in 2018. 

I got a big girl job that I absolutely love. It has made me realize giving back is truly my passion & whatever I end up doing in life needs to involve helping others because that is where I feel joy & fulfillment. 

I grew closer to new people & let myself be vulnerable & honest. I forgave people from my past that let me down, & I let them back in with caution. 

I started reading more self-help books & rediscovering my love for words & their power to heal. 

I traveled out of the country & saw some beautiful places. It reminded me how amazing our planet is & inspired me to do everything I can to make this earth a better place. 

I got some big brand deals for my blog & watched my Instagram grow. I made some amazing Internet friends that made me so grateful for the blogging community. I also started a YouTube channel to highlight my travels, which I hope to be doing more of in 2019!! I realized that the Internet can be a really positive place, but it’s all about what you make it. 

While 2018 was a year of sadness, let-downs, loss, & change, it was also a year of GROWTH. And I plan to take that into the new year with me & grow in every aspect of my life. (Except for height. I will be 5 foot nothing forever.) 

And for those of you who are also experiencing a huge amount of  sadness, change, hardship, whatever it may be, just know that you will get through it & you’ll be a better person because of it. It will take a long time to heal & you may never fully be the same, but everything happens for a reason. 

In the wise words of Kylie Jenner, 2018 was “the year of just realizing stuff.” 

Here’s to a better 2019. 

with love,

jazz

Photo: Katie Blankenship Photography, @katie.blankenship.photography

CaseApp Collab

GUYS! This is my most exciting post ever! I got a collaboration with CaseApp! I have seriously loved their cases & products for so long. When they reached out to me about collaborating, I was beyond excited. I had the choice of designing a custom iphone case or laptop skin, so of course I made two iPhone cases for my mom & I because she’s basically my bestie. 🙂 Their products are super high quality & they have so many choices for cases & skins if you don’t want to make your own. I decided to design some because I just love anything graphic design/DIY. You can add pictures & everything, so they would make great gifts for the holidays coming up! You can use my code JASLYN20 to get 20% off until October 26, & check out my Instagram to enter a giveaway for a chance to win a free product from caseapp.com! 

*Collaboration with CaseApp. All thoughts & opinions are my own. 

Where I’m Going

Hi guys! 

Today’s post is going to be a little different.

I have been going through some things in my personal life that I don’t feel ready to talk about yet, but it’s been distracting me from keeping up with blogging, & pretty much everything else in my life. 

I am going to take a few weeks off from creating content. I love this blog & I love being able to write & help you guys out! It just doesn’t feel right to talk about my favorite hair products when I’m actually not worried about my hair at all. I am in the process of moving, & I’ll be traveling soon & won’t have Wifi access anyway, so I think this is a good time for me to take a break.

I try so hard to keep up with blogging & creating content for social, but sometimes I just don’t feel like it. I want to be genuine & real because I want you guys to know that my life is far from perfect. 

I know that I don’t owe anyone an explanation, but I wanted you guys to know that I haven’t forgot about my blog! Writing is my stress relief, but lately it has seemed more like a chore & one more thing to worry about. I never want it to be that way! 

I have lots of exciting things happening for this blog & in my life. I look forward to where this is taking me & everything happening. I can’t wait to share where I’m going 🙂 

See you in a couple weeks with lots of vacation pics!! 

with love,

jazz

Be Your Own Best Friend

Freshman year of college I had to learn how to be my own best friend. I struggled to find a close group of friends, as I think most people do. I went through a couple of friend groups & at one point I definitely thought each group was going to be my squad. But I quickly learned that people drift away & you’re left with only yourself & maybe a close few friends if you’re lucky.

At first I felt sad & sorry for myself because everyone else seemed to have their “people”. And while I do enjoy my time alone, night in & night out it got really lonely. It made me miss my boyfriend, who lives 3 hours away, even more. I thought about transferring too many times to count first semester. I spent all my time in my dorm room. Jim & Pam became my only friends. I ate all the time because I was bored & the freshman 15 started to feel real. I missed my family more than a college student probably should. I was just sad. 

Once I stopped worrying so much that I was missing out, or forcing myself to hang out with people that I didn’t really like, my life got so much better. I realized that nothing was going to change, & I wasn’t going to make close relationships if I just stayed in my dorm. So I got up, got out & took time for myself. 

I went to the farmers market. I discovered new coffee shops. I went on walks & discovered parts of my city I never new existed. I talked to strangers. And SURPRISE! When I stopped trying so hard to find my “people” they kinda just found me. Now I happily have a solid group of friends that I am sure will be friends for life, while also knowing myself so much better. 

It really all comes down to self love & taking care of yourself first, making yourself happy. I was looking to other people to try to fill this loneliness void, & while other people can certainly make you feel less lonely, they only will temporarily. You have to discover yourself to be able to have quality friendships, & to know what you want in a friend anyway. I know it sounds cliche & cheesy, but I’m telling the truth! If you’re feeling lonely or lost in your friendships, take time for yourself & see how your social life transforms.

This post isn’t to complain or make you feel sorry for me, but I hope it makes you feel less alone because all of us go through this at some point in life. And it’s totally ok to hang out by yourself. I still haven’t gotten to the movies alone, but I just might. 🙂 

What’s your favorite thing to do when you have time to yourself? Let me know in the comments or DM me on social! 

with love,

jazz