21 THINGS I’VE LEARNED AT 21

Hi guys! I thought this post would be appropriate since I recently turned 21 & that’s kind of a milestone birthday. This next decade is going to be crazy & I look forward to all that it holds. 🙂 Here are some things that I learned in my 21 years of life!

1.) I am super forgiving. 

I have the biggest heart & anyone who knows me will agree. It’s hard for me to stay mad at people & I give too many chances to people who may not deserve it. But I’m always just trying to be the nicest person.

2.) Go outside. 

Even if it’s just for a second, I promise it will give you a fresh mindset. Whenever I am feeling upset or too stuck on my own life & problems, I go outside. I watch other people living their life & hear everything going on & it just calms me down & helps me realize that my problems are actually not so bad. You are not alone.

3.) Most everyone deserves a second chance.

I’m a firm believer in second chances. I think everyone needs a do-over once in awhile.

4.) Sleep on it.

A good night’s sleep fixes pretty much everything. Things don’t seem so bad the next morning. Whenever I am upset, I usually wake up the next morning with a different perspective & a better mindset about the situation. 

5.) Don’t get others involved in your relationship.

I learned this the hard way & unfortunately I don’t think I’m alone. A relationship is between two people & the more people you talk to about your problems, the more people become involved, whether you want them to be or not. Keep things between you & your partner & if you really need someone to talk to or vent to, go to your mom or someone with an unbiased opinion.

6.) Don’t let numbers define you.

You are not defined by numbers. Your weight, your income, your GPA. 

7.) Always say “I love you.”

Last year started off tough with my grandpa passing away suddenly & unexpectedly. We were pretty close so it was hard for me to realize I would never see him again or spend another holiday with him. It was also hard to see how sad my mom was. No one wants to see their mom cry! But all of that is to say, always, always, love because you never know when someone’s last day is. I am fortunate to have just talked to my grandpa & we had a good relationship, but it was just a reminder that sometimes the worst thing happens & you don’t want to have to live with resentment or anger along with grief. 

8.) Have a “what is this teaching me?” attitude.

Life is hard. But switching your mindset from “why is this happening to me?” to “what is this trying to teach me?” is going to help you get through some tough times with a better attitude.

9.) Do not compare.

I don’t really have much advice for this except just avoid what makes you feel bad about yourself & your life. Whether it be someone on Instagram you need to unfollow or a toxic friend that just causes envy that you need to ditch, just do it. Every little thing helps. 

10.) You can’t & won’t please everyone.

This is even harder for me than the comparison one. I am such a people pleaser & I want to fix everything. But I’ve had to learn that I can’t fix every relationship or problem & it’s also not my job. Let it go. Some people just won’t accept you & that’s okay. “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, & there’s still going to be someone who hates peaches.”

11.) Cheese is expensive.

Reason #1 why I went vegan.

12.) You can’t avoid conflict and confrontation so learn how to handle it with class and confidence.

13.) Pray. 

A relationship with God is the most important relationship you can have. Focus on Him & His plan for your life & everything will start to fall in place. Maybe not right away, but trust the timing of your life.

14.) Letting go is hard, but holding on is harder. 

That possessive relationship, that draining job, that unfulfilling major, that broken friendship… let it go. 

15.) It’s okay to be selfish sometimes. 

16.) Slow down. 

17.) Tell your parents ‘thank you.’ 

I am so lucky to have parents that have supported every passion I have ever had & done their best to make my dreams come true. They do so much for me & I am forever thankful. Don’t forget about the people that shaped you into the person you are today. 

18.) Drop expectations.

19.) Travel. 

I have been fortunate enough to explore most of my country & it is so amazing! Save up your money & travel… as far & wide as you can. Home will always be home, but you’ll be a different person because of your experiences. 

20.) Just go for it.

Don’t wait for a “sign” or anything like that. Just do the thing. The hard thing, the scary thing, the thing you’ve always wanted to do. Just go for it!! You will only regret the chances you didn’t take. 

21.) Find yourself.

I know this is soooo cliche, but it’s like that for a reason. These past couple of years I have learned so much about myself & figured out who & what really matters in life, I’ve found my passion & I’m finally living it so I feel like I have a purpose. And I’m not saying you have to go on some extravagant hike to “find yourself”. I’m just saying, spend time with yourself. Take a whole day to do what you love. Take a bunch of days to do what you love & just be alone to think. Most of my freshman year of college I spent alone because I didn’t have a solid group of friends, but after I stopped feeling sorry for myself is when things changed. I figured out who I was & what I wanted & I went after it. Now I know myself & what I need to be the “best me”. It’s going to take time, but it is so, so worth it. 

Sustainable Living

Hi guys! 

Today I decided to write about ways to be more sustainable in your everyday life! Recently I’ve made the commitment to use as many ethical, natural & sustainable products as I can. I feel better if I know that I’m doing my part to make this world a better place! I know before I decided to make this change I was intimidated. I wasn’t sure where to start & I wanted to be PERFECT. But then I remembered it’s about trying! So in no way am I perfect about buying & using only sustainable, natural & ethical products, but I definitely do my best! I’ll link all the items I use down below 🙂 

Kitchen 

E-Z Seal Extra Thick Reusable Storage Bags

Stainless Steel Metal Straws

Reusable Produce Bags

Ball 12ct 16oz Mason Jar

Kate Spade New York Gold Stripe Thermal Mug

Beauty 

Love Beauty & Planet Murumuru Butter & Rose Shampoo

Love Beauty & Planet Murumuru Butter & Rose Conditioner

Wowe Natural Organic Bamboo Toothbrush

Raw Sugar Body Wash

Other 

Mrs. Meyer’s Lavender Multi-Surface Everyday Cleaner

Fair Trade Shopping Bag

Photo: Katie Blankenship Photography, @katie.blankenship.photography

The Year of Just Realizing Stuff

Now that I’m ready to write again, I want to reflect on 2018.

2018 was hard for me. It started out rough & never really got better. Sure, there were some highs, but a lot of lows. I experienced a lot of heart break, sadness, loss, & change. 

In January, just days after my 20th birthday, my grandfather died. It made me realize that life is short & to never take anything for granted, especially the people in your life. Love, forgive & cherish the time you have with your friends & family.

A lot of drama & pettiness filled my life with some of the people closest to me. I drew away from people that cared about me in fear of being let down like I already had. I learned a lot about friendship. It made me realize that life is too short to worry about what other people think & let them dictate your thoughts & actions. And that REAL friends will be supportive & respectful, while also wanting the very best for you. Cut out the toxic people, people! 

Last year, my relationship struggled. Long distance finally got the best of us & our differences started to show. I fought so hard to keep the relationship alive, but felt like a failure whenever my attempts to save the relationship failed. I so badly wanted to “save” the relationship because we had been together for so long. We talked about our future together, made plans to move in together, have a family. I so desperately wanted it to work out because he was my best friend. I felt safe with him. He was home to me. He was my first love, my first everything & I didn’t want to give that up. I didn’t want to lose him, because I knew that meant losing everything else. 

But I realized that I can’t save people, I can’t change people. I can’t have what isn’t mine to keep.

In July, I made the decision to break up with my boyfriend of 3 & 1/2 years. It was the hardest thing I had ever had to do because I hate hurting people. The last thing I want to do is make people sad & upset. I’m such a people pleaser. (Leaving that in 2018). I felt like I was not only letting someone down, but letting down the one person I never thought I would hurt. My best friend & love.

Although it was hard, it made me realize that letting go is so much easier than holding on. 

What followed was a lot of sadness. I had to get used to a new normal. A new life without my person. I had never felt more alone. 

Seven months later & it’s still hard. But I’ve learned so much about myself & what I want & need. 

I grew up a LOT in 2018. 

I got a big girl job that I absolutely love. It has made me realize giving back is truly my passion & whatever I end up doing in life needs to involve helping others because that is where I feel joy & fulfillment. 

I grew closer to new people & let myself be vulnerable & honest. I forgave people from my past that let me down, & I let them back in with caution. 

I started reading more self-help books & rediscovering my love for words & their power to heal. 

I traveled out of the country & saw some beautiful places. It reminded me how amazing our planet is & inspired me to do everything I can to make this earth a better place. 

I got some big brand deals for my blog & watched my Instagram grow. I made some amazing Internet friends that made me so grateful for the blogging community. I also started a YouTube channel to highlight my travels, which I hope to be doing more of in 2019!! I realized that the Internet can be a really positive place, but it’s all about what you make it. 

While 2018 was a year of sadness, let-downs, loss, & change, it was also a year of GROWTH. And I plan to take that into the new year with me & grow in every aspect of my life. (Except for height. I will be 5 foot nothing forever.) 

And for those of you who are also experiencing a huge amount of  sadness, change, hardship, whatever it may be, just know that you will get through it & you’ll be a better person because of it. It will take a long time to heal & you may never fully be the same, but everything happens for a reason. 

In the wise words of Kylie Jenner, 2018 was “the year of just realizing stuff.” 

Here’s to a better 2019. 

with love,

jazz

Photo: Katie Blankenship Photography, @katie.blankenship.photography

CaseApp Collab

GUYS! This is my most exciting post ever! I got a collaboration with CaseApp! I have seriously loved their cases & products for so long. When they reached out to me about collaborating, I was beyond excited. I had the choice of designing a custom iphone case or laptop skin, so of course I made two iPhone cases for my mom & I because she’s basically my bestie. 🙂 Their products are super high quality & they have so many choices for cases & skins if you don’t want to make your own. I decided to design some because I just love anything graphic design/DIY. You can add pictures & everything, so they would make great gifts for the holidays coming up! You can use my code JASLYN20 to get 20% off until October 26, & check out my Instagram to enter a giveaway for a chance to win a free product from caseapp.com! 

*Collaboration with CaseApp. All thoughts & opinions are my own. 

Where I’m Going

Hi guys! 

Today’s post is going to be a little different.

I have been going through some things in my personal life that I don’t feel ready to talk about yet, but it’s been distracting me from keeping up with blogging, & pretty much everything else in my life. 

I am going to take a few weeks off from creating content. I love this blog & I love being able to write & help you guys out! It just doesn’t feel right to talk about my favorite hair products when I’m actually not worried about my hair at all. I am in the process of moving, & I’ll be traveling soon & won’t have Wifi access anyway, so I think this is a good time for me to take a break.

I try so hard to keep up with blogging & creating content for social, but sometimes I just don’t feel like it. I want to be genuine & real because I want you guys to know that my life is far from perfect. 

I know that I don’t owe anyone an explanation, but I wanted you guys to know that I haven’t forgot about my blog! Writing is my stress relief, but lately it has seemed more like a chore & one more thing to worry about. I never want it to be that way! 

I have lots of exciting things happening for this blog & in my life. I look forward to where this is taking me & everything happening. I can’t wait to share where I’m going 🙂 

See you in a couple weeks with lots of vacation pics!! 

with love,

jazz

Be Your Own Best Friend

Freshman year of college I had to learn how to be my own best friend. I struggled to find a close group of friends, as I think most people do. I went through a couple of friend groups & at one point I definitely thought each group was going to be my squad. But I quickly learned that people drift away & you’re left with only yourself & maybe a close few friends if you’re lucky.

At first I felt sad & sorry for myself because everyone else seemed to have their “people”. And while I do enjoy my time alone, night in & night out it got really lonely. It made me miss my boyfriend, who lives 3 hours away, even more. I thought about transferring too many times to count first semester. I spent all my time in my dorm room. Jim & Pam became my only friends. I ate all the time because I was bored & the freshman 15 started to feel real. I missed my family more than a college student probably should. I was just sad. 

Once I stopped worrying so much that I was missing out, or forcing myself to hang out with people that I didn’t really like, my life got so much better. I realized that nothing was going to change, & I wasn’t going to make close relationships if I just stayed in my dorm. So I got up, got out & took time for myself. 

I went to the farmers market. I discovered new coffee shops. I went on walks & discovered parts of my city I never new existed. I talked to strangers. And SURPRISE! When I stopped trying so hard to find my “people” they kinda just found me. Now I happily have a solid group of friends that I am sure will be friends for life, while also knowing myself so much better. 

It really all comes down to self love & taking care of yourself first, making yourself happy. I was looking to other people to try to fill this loneliness void, & while other people can certainly make you feel less lonely, they only will temporarily. You have to discover yourself to be able to have quality friendships, & to know what you want in a friend anyway. I know it sounds cliche & cheesy, but I’m telling the truth! If you’re feeling lonely or lost in your friendships, take time for yourself & see how your social life transforms.

This post isn’t to complain or make you feel sorry for me, but I hope it makes you feel less alone because all of us go through this at some point in life. And it’s totally ok to hang out by yourself. I still haven’t gotten to the movies alone, but I just might. 🙂 

What’s your favorite thing to do when you have time to yourself? Let me know in the comments or DM me on social! 

with love,

jazz

12 Things

Hello guys!!

Today’s post is going to be a quick 12 Things, to tell you guys about my summer so far & my whereabouts. The last time I did one of these was the end of the school year I think, so it’s time for an update! 

1.) I am for sure going to Canada this summer!! We are going to Vancouver & Victoria, so if you’ve ever been, please send recommendations for things to do/see. 

2.) I LOVE my new job/internship. It’s literally the best job ever. The people are amazing, the cause is amazing, the work is amazing. I’ll probably talk about it a ton, so sorry in advance! Just super passionate 🙂 

3.) I’ve been really into country music lately! I grew up listening to it because I lived in a town where everyone liked it, but I go through phases. My first concert was actually Tim McGraw!

4.) I just got back from a staycation, & it was rainy the whole time, but still a good time with my family & a nice break from life 🙂 

5.) Speaking of rain, it’s monsoon season here in Arizona!! For those of you that don’t know, that means rain & clouds, aka my fav weather! 

6.) For the first time ever, I made my own dentist appointment today. Growing up is horrible.

7.) I just started Riverdale on Netflix!! Seems like the typical high school flick, but I love those kinda shows. Everyone raves about it so we’ll see!

8.) I bought a Victoria’s Secret robe this weekend & I’ve been wanting one forever & it is satin & soft so I think I am never going to take it off. 

9.)  I am slowly transitioning into sustainable living, & by that I mean, not using plastics & horrible things for the environment as much!! It’s so important & I hope soon everyone catches on to that.

10.) I was THIS close to buying a cat last weekend. Then I decided now is not the time. Cute Pinterest kitties will have to do for now:/

11.) I counted & school starts in like 8 weeks & I. am. not. ready. 🙂

12.) It’s currently 9:40 p.m. on Sunday night & my bedtime is 10 p.m. (get your 8 hours!!) so I am going to say byeee!

with love,

jazz

Pros & Cons of Roommates

Having roommates is a huge part of college; I’ve been blessed to have wonderful roommates so far, but not everyone has! Going into my third year, I couldn’t decide if I wanted to live alone or keep living with roommates. I decided to have roommates because it kinda just worked out that way & I’ll be living with my best friend from high school so I’m super excited for that!! 

When I was trying to decide whether or not I wanted roommates, I had to think about the pros & cons. I tend to think things through A LOT, probably when I don’t need to, but I put a lot of thought into the decision. I decided to tell you guys about my experience living with roommates to help you guys out! I know it’s not an easy decision & living alone can seem really intimidating. So here’s the thing…

Pros: 

  • Built in best friends

College is so much better when you have people you can go to! After a long day, I always enjoy coming home to talk to my roomies or hang out with them. 

  • Low cost

Living with roommates will most likely bring down the price of rent. The more people pitching in, the less each person has to pay! 

  • Study dates

Chances are, your roommates will also be in college! Studying with them is a great way to get things done & enjoy time together out of your busy schedules.

  • Cute clothes

Okay, this is definitely, probably the best part. You literally have a bunch of other closets to shop in!! I know that my roommates & I swapped shoes & clothing all the time. We are each other’s personal stylists & there’s nothing better than that! 

Cons:

  • Messes 

Okay so before I get too far in, you must know I am a neat freak. Everything must look & smell perfect all of the time, so living with other people is tricky for me sometimes because not everyone is the same way! I may be OCD about it, but it can be hard to live with people that don’t value cleanliness as much as you do. I suggest making sure 1) you live with people who are somewhat like you in terms of cleanliness/messiness & 2) make a chore chart!! It helps to keep people accountable & avoids anyone feeling like they are doing too much of the work. 

  • Pettiness/Drama

So this is basically a given with any friend group. Everyone is going to have differences & sometimes those can just boil up & explode! It’s tough to live in an environment where you don’t feel welcomed, so when drama arises, it can have a big impact on your life because you are literally seeing these people every day. Since it is inevitable that problems will arise, just try to talk them out as soon as possible. It basically is the same as any relationship; the sooner you talk it through, the better things will be in the long run! Although there may be hurt feelings & some hard days, just try not to let anything ruin the friendship. And if all else fails, just be nice lol.

Living with my froomies (friends & roomies) this year was AMAZING. We had so much fun together whether it was watching The Bachelor, planning a party, making dinner, or getting boba (our bodies are 90% boba, 10% coffee at this point). That’s not to say we didn’t have problems & hard days, but that’s just a part of relationships in general! My advice is that you find some people you literally can’t live without 😉 & enjoy the experience. College is the best time in life to have roommates, so do it while you can! I have never lived alone, so I can’t speak for that, but I hope this post helped you think it out a little more!

Do you have any roommate horror stories? Let me know in the comments or DM me on social! 

with love,

jazz

P.S. *Actual picture of me & my roomies being cute. Love you guys ❤

Inspiration

I am one of those people who has had many passions throughout my life. When I was younger, I went through a horse phase, & then a gymnastics phase where all I wanted in life was to go to the Olympics. I put my heart into everything that I do. I would spend hours reading horse books & practicing a back walkover on the wood balance beam my dad made for me. Now, my passion is this blog. I want to make it something big, & I work at it everyday & spend hours on Pinterest reading up on the “do’s & don’ts” of blogging, which is the equivalent to horse grooming books back in the day.

The problem is, sometimes I’m just not inspired. Take this post for example; I planned to write it this weekend & have it be really long & awesome, but it’s Monday morning & I’m just sitting down to write. I always want to be honest on my blog because people love honesty & that’s the only way to build a real “fan” base. So the truth is, sometimes I don’t want to. 

Staying inspired can be hard, but I’ve learned the best way to stay inspired is to be original. The moment you try to copy someone else, you become totally lost in who you are & what your goals are. It’s hard to copy someone so closely. But it also helps to follow people on Instagram or Pinterest who you admire, & befriend people who share the same passion as you. It’s important to have friends & people in your life that understand what you’re going through. I can’t stress this enough!! Make sure you surround yourself with people who inspire you & make you want to push yourself harder, but never compare yourself because you aren’t them & you are on your own journey. (SO CHEESY I KNOW.) This applies to everything in life, not just hobbies. It can be your major, or fitness, or even a relationship. 

I really don’t have a quick fix for feeling down or uninspired, but these are the things that help me. As college finals are getting closer, I know a lot of students (myself included) really start to stress out. It can definitely be a time where it’s hard to find motivation let alone inspiration. But remember why you started. You are doing this for you & you love it, & if you don’t love it, well you need to change something because life is too short to hate your life every single day. Staying inspired is so much easier when you love what you do & who you are.

How do you stay inspired? Help a girl out & comment below or DM me on social! 

with love,

jazz

Branding Workshop Recap

Happy Monday guys!

Last week I had the chance to attend a conference with Audree Lopez of the blog Simply Audree Kate! She has a fashion blog & she is also is a stylist, fashion consultant & editor in NYC. She graduated from my school (!!!) so it was great to hear someone speak that was once in my shoes!

I’m going to give you guys a quick low-down on what she talked about. It was a personal branding workshop, so she focused on how to build your brand & stay competitive in the fashion & creative industry. Resume writing, cold-emails, interviews, & internships were the main topics of conversation! We also went over the questions you should ask yourself in order to know yourself & build the most genuine brand.

Your brand is what you advertise with so-to-speak & who you are. It’s your “voice + vision + visuals”. It’s who you are, what you do, why you’re unique, and how you’re valuable. When I started this blog, I went through those steps & it really helped me decide what I wanted my blog to look like, what I wanted to talk about, the kinds of pictures I would post & all the other fun stuff! It can be a hard thing to break down your life into just four categories, but it really helps you get to know yourself better! Even if you aren’t a blogger, these questions will help you write a better resume & honestly, just live a better life!! Once you know who you are & what you really love, life becomes so much simpler 🙂

I recently finished the book The Happiness Project. Would you guys want me to share my own version? Let me know in the comments or DM me on social media. BTW, don’t forget to follow me on all social platforms! Links are at the bottom of the page!

with love,

jazz